Ya Ching Wei Kao's Obituary
高魏亞卿女士，於公元2016年9月5日 晚間08:01分，辭世於美國西岸北加州，南聖荷西市的好撒瑪利亞醫院，享年83歲。9月4日晚間，高女士與小兒子熙群、兒媳淑雲，及小孫兒獻恩，一起享用晚餐之時，頭部突然感到劇烈疼痛，在瞬間数秒內，立即昏厥、不醒人事。兒、媳撥打了911，同時開始了人工心肺復甦術，但高女士依舊沒有任何意識。约五分鐘的光景，救護車即抵達住處，將患者立即送到了臨近的聖塔特瑞莎醫院的急救中心。在立刻通知高女士所有家人的同时,做了CT掃描，掃描结果顯示腦顱內腔嚴重出血，且已造成大範圍的腦組織損傷。数位醫師一致研判，諸如此类的出血性中風， 没有任何藥物可以治療、或任何手術可以扭轉劣勢。經家屬要求，高女士被轉往好撒瑪利亞醫院的神經外科加護病房，那裡的神經外科手術醫生團隊，也做出了與前医院相同的診斷，即高女士的病情無藥可醫，無手術可挽救。次日，2016年9月5日勞工節晚間7點左右，所有近親兒孫輩都聚集在病塌前，08:01分，高女士辭別了她勞苦的一生，在家人的陪伴下安然離世，歸主懷抱。高女士閨名魏亞卿，於公元1933年11月14日，出生在中國安徽省合肥市。父魏伯融、母魏樊霞雲，兄弟姐妹五人，魏俊卿、魏化灝、魏化滌、魏化濟、魏亞卿。亞卿女士排行老五，人稱“小五姐”。高魏亞卿女士是大时代的儿女，在中國多災多難的戰事之秋長成，歷經對日抗戰與世界二次大戰 !自幼與母親、兄姐相依，當國共分裂，政權轉移之际，高女士隨同母親及兄長們，於1949年移居台灣。高女士在16歲之年，和母親一同接受天主教信仰，相信救主耶穌基督，並受洗歸主。高女士與母親定居於台灣宜蘭，高中就讀於南陽女中，完成了師專、師範等大學課程後，一直任職小學老師，承擔家計，並撫養母親及親屬。1959年的元旦，魏亞卿女士與高元斌先生結婚，婚後育有四名子女，高熙平、高熙榮、高熙安、高熙群。高女士的一生總以家庭為重！為了讓孩子能有更好的教育機會及发展前景，她於1975年支身來美，在夏威夷的中餐館擔任廚師，度過了三、四個艱辛的年頭，終於取得綠卡; 並於1979年12月28日，領著丈夫、孩子們一家六口，成功地移民美國，舉家遷移至加州的聖荷西 ∼ 時年46歲。為支撑一家生計，和支付子女們的教育經費，高女士與先生構思著創業，因而開了家中國餐館，每天工作十三個小時，忙碌辛勞，克勤克儉，不有停歇 ; 歲月荏苒，時節交替，歷時十五個年頭有多，直到六十五歲與老伴一同休業為止。2002年，高女士的夫君高元斌先生返台探友，在台北發生車禍，高女士立即返回台灣，將手術後的夫君接回美國，安排在聖荷西的療養院裡。高女士每天伴隨在夫君病床邊八個半小時，刮風下雨、寒冬褥暑、舟車往返八個年頭，未有間斷，直到2010年6月24日夫君過世為止。高魏亞卿女士對兒女在工作上的成就，及孫輩們在學業上的表现，倍感欣慰與驕傲。其晚年與家人和兒孫共享許多歡樂的時光，足堪告慰的是子女們一周數次的探訪，天倫之樂樂無窮。高魏亞卿女士是一位無私忘我、滿有愛心的女性！儘管她的人生充滿了風霜雪雨，她依舊満懷感恩。戰火的摧殘，經濟的蕭條，及生活的困顿，不曾削弱其堅忍的毅力，卻是陶養其不凡的韌性，豁達的氣度、和洞见的淡定。高女士生时，化育無数、施與多接受少。離世之时，也走的瀟灑從容，不领受子女病榻前照管看護的孝道，只留下永遠的追思和缅懷。高魏亞卿女士家屬: 長女 高熙平、婿 計沛恩 次女 高熙榮 長男 高熙安、長媳 陶德恂 次子 高熙群、次媳 陳淑雲 孫輩： 長外孫 計君時、次外孫 計君節 長孫女 高獻德 長孫 高獻恩 鞠躬敬上高魏亞卿女士，葬禮訂于2016年9月10日周六下午三点在半月湾的百龄园举行Ms. Ya-ching Wei Kao, 83, of San Jose, Califronia, passed away at Good Samaritan Hospital on the evening of September 5th, 2016 at 8:01 P.M.While enjoying dinner on September 4th with her youngest son David, daughter-in-law Shuyun, and grandson Samuel, Ms. Ya-ching began experiencing a severe headache. Within a few seconds, she became unconscious and collapsed, and was unresponsive to CPR subsequently performed by David and Shuyun.An ambulance arrived within five minutes and transported Ms. Ya-ching to a nearby hospital, at which time all her immediate family was notified. A CT scan of her brain revealed catastrophicbrain damage from a massive hemorrhagic stroke, and multiple doctors concluded that her situation was inoperable.She was later transferred to Good Samaritan Hospital’s Neuroscience Intensive Care Unit, where the team of neurosurgeons present confirmed the same diagnosis.On September 5th at 7:00 P.M., all her immediate family gathered at her bedside to accompany her as she was taken off life support and passed away peacefully at 8:01 P.MMs. Ya-ching Wei Kao was born in China on November 14th,1933, as the youngest child to Po-jung Wei and Hsia-yun Fan. Her other siblings include Jun-qing Wei, Hua-hao Wei, Hua-ti Wei, and Hua-ji Wei.Ya-ching grew up with her mother and siblings during the difficult and tumultuous period of the Second World War. At the age of 16, she moved to Taiwan after the Chinese Revolution of 1949, where she was baptized as a Catholic.After completing her education at the Taipei Education Academy for Teachers, she supported her family as an elementary school teacher.On January 1st, 1959, Ya-ching married Yuan-pin Kao, with whom she had four children: Xi-ping “Jenny”, Xi-rong “Christina”, Xi-an “Sean”, and Xi-qun “David”. Always placing the livelihood of her family first, she set her sights on the United States, seeking better education and opportunities for her children. After several hard years working as a chef in Hawaii, Ya-ching was granted U.S. residency, and she successfully immigrated her family to the United States on December 28th, 1979.Here, she continued working to support her family while her children received their educations in California, opening a Chinese Restaurant for thirteen years until she retired with her husband.In spring of 2002, Ya-ching’s husband Yuan-pin was involved in a car accident in Taiwan, during which he sustained a traumatic brain injury and lasting brain damage. Relegated to a nursing home upon his return to the States, Ya-ching visited and took care of her husband day-after-day at the facility for the next eight-and-a-half years until his passing in June of 2010.In her later years, Ya-ching shared many memorable moments with her family and grandchildren. She greatly enjoyed spending leisure time with her family and was always looking forward to the next time she could treat her children and grandchildren to a meal. She was also immensely proud of her children’s careers and accomplishments, and of her grandchildren’s academic achievements, as she always commented on how grateful she was to see her contributions to the success of her children and grandchildren bear fruit.Despite the many hardships Ya-ching faced throughout her life, she was a resilient, selfless, and loving woman who did everything in her power to grant the best possible life for her family. Though she will be dearly missed, her sacrificial and persevering spirit will undoubtedly live onin the lives of all those whom she has deeply touched.Ya-ching Wei Kao is survived by her four children and children-in-law: Jenny Jih and Peyen Jih, Christina Kao, Sean Kuo and Olive Tao, David Kuo and Shuyun Kuo. Her flame will also burn forever brightly in her four grandchildren: Jonathan Jih, Jordan Jih, Tiffany Kuo, and Samuel Kuo.A funeral will be held on Saturday, September 10th, 2016 at 3:00 P.M. at Skylawn Memorial Park.
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